I really liked the quote from Lewis Carroll. But some decisions are made for you by all kinds of things we humans have no control over. I was on my way to a teaching career when I was struck down by a disease I had no control over! That sucks. I spent 11 years in and out of hospitals, sick as a dog. I kept writing - my own blog about the journey I was on. Then while journaling one morning a couple of characters started telling me their story. That was my introduction to fiction! And I ended up writing 3 novels. Most fun I’d ever had. We never know what will show up. Stay open to that